My Second Trimester Recap

Above photo by the sweetest Katie Day at Katie Day Photography 

My goodness, I know this post is months overdue, but with the craziness of the pandemic, giving birth a month earlier than expected, being a first time mom raising a newborn, and stopping maternity leave a month earlier, I’m just holding on to the crazy train that is life right now. It really feels like I’m just trying to survive some days! However, there is still so much I want to share with you about my journey to motherhood so here I am writing my 2nd trimester recap haha!

How my 2nd trimester differed from my 1st

Thank goodness I kept a journal during my pregnancy to remind myself of everything I was going through. My 2nd trimester was definitely a lot easier than my first! The nausea and extreme tiredness of the first trimester went away literally the first week of my 2nd trimester. I felt so much more energy and at times I would even forget I was pregnant because I felt so normal. I was excited to get my appetite back because I literally had no appetite in the first trimester.

Cravings & Aversions

I didn’t have any real cravings in the first trimester so I was excited to find out what I’d want to eat in the 2nd. My biggest cravings were hot dogs haha! Hot dogs are kind of frowned upon during pregnancy because they had to be made sure to be heated to the right temperature but I craved them weekly! I think I really only had about 2-3 hot dogs during my whole 2nd trimester but I thought about them all the time haha. I also craved cake and Starbucks guava white tea drinks. I still had aversions to all beyond burger products unfortunately and I still couldn’t finish big meals. I could only eat about half of a meal and feel full, probably because the growing baby was taking up a lot of room.

2nd Trimester Symptoms

A new set of symptoms started to arrive as the 1st trimester ones waned. (TMI City coming up, so proceed with caution!) I still had crazy sore breasts. They just hurt all the time and that never went away during my pregnancy. A new stereotypical symptom started to gain strength and that was my need to pee. I had to go to the restroom all the time and that was something I never had a problem with before. I was trying to drink as much water as possible to stay healthy so that didn’t help at all haha but I just had to go to the restroom everywhere I went, it was so annoying! Another weird symptom I started getting was something called Lightning Crotch, haha. Technically it’s called round ligament pain and it’s just a shooting pain that comes out of nowhere, like someone just kicked you in your private parts. That was fun.

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Finding Out The Sex of Our Baby!

The 2nd trimester was also when we could find out the sex of our baby! I took an NIPT test which was a blood test that would screen for chromosomal defects but also would tell you the sex of your baby. The results came in the mail and Jared and I read it together. I first looked to see if there were any chromosomal anomalies and thank God everything was looking normal. Then I looked down and it said the baby was female. My husband and I both bursted out crying. We were both ready to be happy no matter what the sex of our baby was. I actually convinced myself I was going to have a boy. I don’t know if it was because I knew I’d be slightly sad to not have a girl to dress up in cute girly clothes, or if because our baby doggy Moby was a boy and I felt used to baby boys somehow haha. When we saw that she was a she I was so beyond happy and thoughts of cute Disney Baby outfits started rolling around in my head and I couldn’t stop thinking if she was going to look like me or my husband. He was also so excited to be a Girl Dad.

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Getting to Tell Everyone We’re Pregnant

It wasn’t until the 2nd trimester when it was safe enough for me to tell everyone I was pregnant. Being older, it always felt like touch and go with every test so we were super cautious to not get ahead of ourselves. The first person I told was my friend Kim. I didn’t plan it haha, but we were at a cool event at the Disney Studios to celebrate the premiere of Disney Plus’ High School Musical the Musical the Series. We were the only ones in the Disney studio theatre bathroom and I just blurted it out and told her haha! It felt so great to tell someone and Kim was the best person to tell because she kept my secret till I announced! I love you Kim!!!! We then told my parents when we visited them. I put a pic of our ultrasound in a card and handed it to them. They were so surprised and never thought they would be grandparents because it took me forever to get married haha. My dad high fived Jared haha, and they were so happy.

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Telling my parents and brother for the first time

Getting Ready For Baby

I started researching all baby stuff, but mainly I started buying all the baby clothes haha. It was so exciting to find all the cute baby clothing companies. It was like a whole new world that I never thought I would be a part of. Some of my new favorite baby clothing stores were Hugo Loves Tiki, Spearmint Baby, and saw that Uniqlo, Zara and HM had a lot of cute baby clothes.

The Coronavirus

I started my 2nd trimester at the end of December 2019 and ended my 2nd trimester in mid March so this is when my pregnancy started to take it’s weird and at times scary turn. January and February was filled with fun events with friends and so much fun announcing to the world that I was pregnant. There was so much fun day dreaming about bringing her to Disneyland for the first time and I even found out of my dear friends Jess was expecting a baby girl about 10 weeks later than I was. 2020 was looking just so exciting! =( Like everyone, in late February there was a lot of news on the news about a virus that was going around. My friend Jaycee warned me about going to Disneyland with the virus starting to run rampant and there was so much talk about washing your hands and using hand sanitizer. It started to get scarier and scarier as a pregnant lady. I remember one of the last times I went to Disneyland, I went by myself and I forgot my hand sanitizer and for the life of me, couldn’t find any to buy at Disneyland. They were all sold out. For the first time ever I was a little bit afraid of what was going on. I couldn’t even feel fully safe being at my happiest place. I also had all my work and health insurance and maternity leave planned out and everything was supposed transition smoothly into going on maternity leave. Being a freelance TV Producer, I was blessed to have work lined up till I was ready to start maternity leave and I was planning on taking a nice month off right before the baby was born. Well that all went up in smoke at the beginning of March and I found myself out of a job, while 7 months pregnant and so uncertain of the future. I didn’t know how I would afford my health insurance while having this baby and all we had was our savings which we were saving up for the baby and to help supplement our income while I was on maternity leave which paid about half of my regular salary. A bit of pre-partum depression started to settle in amongst all of this and I found it harder and harder to celebrate having a baby during all this uncertainty. I found myself taking less and less pictures of my growing bump which I regret now. Luckily, and I know a lot of others were not so lucky, but I had a friend who took sympathy upon me and hired me to work on her show the week after I was let go. I was soooo grateful and at the same time pretty scared because for the first 2 weeks I had to go into the office due to the fact that the company was still transitioning to work from home. For 2 weeks straight, I had to drive to the heart of Hollywood and basically bathe myself in hand sanitizer while not being able to stand close to my dear coworkers who were also my friends. I sat in an office all day by myself, sanitizing my office from head to toe every morning. I was feeling so alone. By then it started to sink in that it wasn’t a good idea to see my friends in person anymore and it wasn’t a good idea to see my parents either, who lived in a retirement community. Thinking back, it was so tough and I do believe this pandemic played a huge part in my post partum depression, which I’ll talk about soon.

Any who, that’s basically how I ended my 2nd trimester, on such a sad note! I started my 3rd trimester just as we started lock down for the Coronavirus. I think that’s why it’s also taken me so long to catch everyone up on what the rest of my pregnancy was like. I’m just finally starting to feel open again about it all so if you’re still with me on this journey, thanks! I’m excited to fill everyone in on the craziness of the past few months and what the rest of my pregnancy was like as well as all the wonderful things about being pregnant and eventually soon I’ll tell you all about Baby Violet’s birth story!=)

On Having A B Belly

I have a B belly, and no I don’t mean beer belly 🤰🏻⁣⁣

I think when you become pregnant you have all these expectations of what it’s gonna be like. Is there gonna be nausea, what are your cravings going to look like and also how is your body going to change? With me being #plussizeandpregnant, there aren’t a lot of pregnant role models out there for me to see. Most of the ads you see of pregnant ladies are adorably “normal sized” ladies with the perfect, cutest bumps. Round, perfect D shaped bumps. As I started to grow I had to come to terms that my baby bump would not look like that. ⁣⁣⁣⁣

I will say it made me sad because since I didn’t start out at what society thinks is the “ideal weight,” I felt my baby bump wouldn’t look like the ideal bump. For a long time I didn’t really “show” I just looked bigger. My B shaped bump didn’t look like a baby bump, it looked like a big muffin top and a muffin top that grew bigger as my baby grew bigger. ⁣

⁣As my B belly started to get bigger, I was just glad my bump was growing and my baby was healthy. I was glad to look more pregnant, even if my bump wasn’t perfectly round. And even though there are so many stigmas about being overweight and pregnant, my baby is perfectly healthy and growing right on track. Being overweight has not impacted the health of my baby at all, maybe just the look of my bump. I am so thankful that I also have a great doctor who has never judged me for my weight or made me feel less than because of it (Shout out to Dr. Latrice Allen, you are the best!). ⁣⁣

⁣⁣So I wanted to take this pic of my B belly bump for all the mamas who also don’t have what they think is the “ideal” looking baby bump. Just because it doesn’t look like everyone else’s baby bump doesn’t mean your baby won’t be perfectly perfect when he or she arrives. It also doesn’t mean that you are less than beautiful than all the other expecting mamas out there. You glow and grow that bump! 🤰🏻✨⁣⁣

Selfies with Peter Pan at Disneyland

This is the first pic I’ve taken of myself by myself at @disneyland! 
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I know it might sound weird to some (though probably not to my Disney loving friends) that I sometimes go to the park by myself but I actually love doing it sometimes. Disneyland is such a second home to me that it just feels like I’m walking around in my neighborhood, like a really cool, fun and happy neighborhood haha! I get to window shop as much as I want, try all the new treats and take as much time as I want walking around.

This time I took a small gorilla tripod with me just in case I wanted to capture anything like my outfit or a cool time lapse. I kept getting compliments on my outfit so I was like, well I guess I should document it haha. I started to set up the tripod and my remote (the tripod looks like a little octopus and the legs supposedly are supposed to wrap around things to keep it still) but it was such a pain in the butt and I was feeling so self conscious as people kept walking by. It literally was taking me 20 minutes and I was about to give up until some Disney magic happened. As I was setting up Peter Pan came by hahha and the camera finally stabilized itself so he helped me take some test shots haha (swipe for some fun Peter Pan pics!) after that I didn’t feel silly anymore and just decided to take some pics no matter what they looked like. This first pic was the best out of the batch and didn’t turn out that bad I must say haha!
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Anyway that was my fun adventure yesterday and it was sooo great to be in my happy place again! The only thing I regret is not taking a proper bump pic haha! Baby girl is growing and I’m 24 weeks (6 months!) along today!
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I can’t wait to come back when the Food and Wine Festival kicks in at the end of the week and me and my @dreamygirlgangare gonna eat all the delicious things!

My First Trimester Recap

Ahh I can’t believe I’m already in my second trimester but I thought I’d recap what my first trimester was like for those of you that are curious, or even on your own baby journey!

image-1Time really does fly fast while you are pregnant and my first trimester seemed like years ago haha, but that’s only because I’m in the “honeymoon” stage of pregnancy and most of my first trimester symptoms have gone away.

My positive pregnancy test taken on Sat, Oct 12th at like 7am!

So the first trimester is the first 12 weeks of your pregnancy and also the most delicate stage of pregnancy. Usually once you hit the 2nd trimester you can start to feel a little more at ease because your risk of miscarriage goes way down from 80% to almost 5%. Being that I’m a little older, this was always in the back of my mind, and I would feel blessed by every passing week all the while battling some crazy nausea and exhaustion.

The day we found out! Our faces say it all!

My First Trimester Symptoms

So I’m sure a lot of you want to know what dreaded morning sickness ailments fell upon me during my first trimester and to be honest, I feel like I got off pretty lucky. My biggest symptoms were nausea, loss of appetite, extreme exhaustion, sore breasts, getting emotional and crying, and heart burn. One of the reasons for having morning sickness is because your body is trying to develop a placenta to support the baby! This was such an interesting thing that I learned. You’d think that the placenta just happened like the baby just happening, but your placenta needs to develop to feed and nourish your baby and until that happens it’s your body that has to do all the work to keep your baby going and morning sickness is the toll! So interesting!

Nausea / Loss of Appetite

I was really lucky to not throw up once during my first trimester (though I heard it can come back in the third trimester because of heart burn so I’m hoping that doesn’t happen). I dreaded throwing up the most because I really can’t deal with it (not that anyone really can). I literally tried everything in my power not to get too nauseated to the point of throwing up haha. This meant eating ginger candy like these and drinking ginger ale and lemon lime soda. I also made sure I took it easy or napped when I felt nauseated or dizzy. Also it’s true, morning sickness doesn’t happen just in the morning. Most of my nausea happened in the middle of the day and at night.

I also did not want to eat anything because I was so nauseated. I thought that when you got pregnant you would just want to eat anything in sight and that was not the case for me. I could barely get through any meal without pushing my food away. It was even sad when my beloved beyond burgers that I used to love so much, now made me want to throw them out the window. To this day, I’m not sure if I can eat a beyond burger which is so weird because I used to love them before I was pregnant. I ended up losing 8lbs in my first trimester and have yet to gain any of it back. Since I’m already overweight it isn’t something to be alarmed about and the baby is getting all it needs, mostly from my stored energy supply (aka my fat =) haha, which is fine with me! Due to my weight, I was actually advised by my doctor to aim to gain no more than 15lbs during this pregnancy and so far it hasn’t been difficult to do. I don’t know what’s going to happen in the 3rd trimester, but so far it hasn’t been difficult to stay steady at my current weight.

Exhaustion

One of the biggest symptoms that hit me first, even before I took a pregnancy test, was exhaustion. I just felt like I had ran a marathon most days and would feel so heavy and way too tired even to walk up the stairs. I’m a morning person and I’m usually never a napper but I’ve never taken so many naps in my life while in my first trimester. There were even some work days where I just pretty much took the day off and slept all day. Thank God I have a job where I can usually make my own hours as long as I meet my deadlines. Being able to have that flexibility was a God send.

Sore Breasts

Sore breasts were also a big sign I got that made me want to take a pregnancy test. Usually I get sore breasts right before my period but it only last for a few days and its intermittent. This time around my breasts would not stop hurting and it was like 24/7 all day long. Wearing bras even hurt me and sleeping on my stomach was painful. Now in my 2nd trimester they are only sensitive a few times day.

Crying / Feeling Emotional

I feel like some of the first things I did after finding out I was pregnant was cry haha. I mean, being pregnant was just a bit of a shock, even though we were kind of trying, but for some reason, I just did not expect to get pregnant. I mean, I had been with my husband for a very long time and it never happened (well we weren’t really trying, trying) so I think I was just in shock coupled with fears of “how do we afford a baby?” coupled with raging pregnancy hormones haha. I wasn’t crying to commercials or sweet photos of babies, it was like fear crying haha because I’m such a planner and I just wanted to know then and now, everything about being a mom and how to handle it all and how afford it all. I wanted to have it all figured out but being a first time mom I had no clue what was happening each day with my self and anything else, like health insurance and how all that worked! My husband is such a trooper though because he kept me calm even though there were days when nothing he could say to me could make me feel better. Now that I’m in the 2nd trimester, I can see how my hormones played a huge role in my emotions.

Heart Burn

I hated heart burn and to have it coupled with nausea is not cool haha. My heartburn would usually happen at night and there were many a time where I made my husband drive me to the market or gas station late at night to get a ginger ale. So far in my 2nd trimester it has subsided but out of all the symptoms, it still lingers.

Our first sonogram and peek at the little peanut at 7 weeks!

Cravings / Aversions / Eating Healthy for the Baby

I am sad to report that I didn’t have any real distinct cravings during my first trimester, mainly because I was so nauseated most of the time. The only thing I remember craving was cinnamon rolls but I never indulged in any. Also, it seemed like the only thing that didn’t make me nauseated were carbs. I did indulge in the occasional croissant and dessert and still do. One of the first things I was concerned about in this pregnancy was preeclampsia / high blood pressure and gestational diabetes. Preeclampsia is an extremely dangerous thing that you can develop in your pregnancy where if your blood pressure gets too high it can put you and your baby at risk, very quickly. Being that I’m older, it’s my first child and I have a family with a history of high blood pressure and stroke I was very concerned and tried to research as much as I could to prevent these things. One of the first books I bought when I found out I was pregnant was Real Food For Pregnancy I highly recommend this book if you are pregnant and want to know about how to eat healthiest for your baby. Registered Dietician Lily Nichols takes an almost Paleo approach to eating during pregnancy and advocates for little to no sugar and lower carb eating to keep high blood pressure and gestational diabetes at bay.

I will say that the first trimester is the most difficult time to try to stay away from carbs, especially since it’s some of the only things you can keep down. My approach was just to do what I could and eat what I could stand during the first trimester and try to go lower sugar after my placenta formed and the first trimester symptoms went away. I’ve been conscious of my sugar intake also, though I won’t deny myself strong cravings and I try not to have days of just sugar bombing myself.

Prenatal Vitamins

One of the most important things you can do as soon as you find out you are pregnant is to take prenatal vitamins. In fact, my dear friend, who became pregnant years before I did told me her doctor told her to take them well before she even got pregnant so that your body would be baby ready so to speak! The folic acid in the prenatal vitamins helps ensure your baby develops well and isn’t at risk for any neural tube defects. You also need a lot of iron and calcium to help grow a baby. I take these Naturemade Prenatal vitamins with DHA and actually had a bottle laying around a few months before finding out I was pregnant when Jared and I decided we should start trying. I found out I was pregant probably in week 5 so that’s when I started taking them. The DHA in these prenatals are omega-3 fatty acids that help lower your chance of preeclampsia and preterm delivery.

And that’s my first trimester in a not so small nutshell!

Well I think that’s all I can think of about what I went through in my first trimester. I hope that there are some things in this post that are helpful to you! I’m very glad I’m out of the first trimester because the 2nd trimester really has been great! I have so much energy now and my first trimester symptoms pretty much went away within a week of hitting the 2nd trimester. I’m still in the middle of my 2nd trimester so when I’m through it I’ll do another recap! Let me know in the comments below if you have any questions, or what your first trimester experience was like. Also, if you aren’t following me on instagram check me out at @littlesweetkaren. I’ll be doing a lot more day to day baby updates on there as well as a plethora of bump pics! Thanks for reading!=)

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